How to Find The Right People

How to Find The Right People

Nearly nothing affects your life more than the people in it. Improving the quality of people around you will almost immediately improve the quality of your life. While this is an obvious statement, the challenging part is learning how to identify who you’re dealing with. People are in your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime. Where we experience disappointment, is expecting someone to be something they’re not. Below I’m going to break down the three types of people who’ll enter your life.

#1 Comrades

Comrades are not for you, nor for what you are for. But instead they’re against what you’re against. These are seasonal people. The simplest example is the United States & Russia during World War II. The two countries are natural adversaries and even considered enemies to some. But they had a common enemy which caused them to join forces during the war. But since a comrade is not for you, once the enemy or problem is taken care of, they will leave you. You should expect this and take no offense to it.

#2 Constituents

Constituents are not for you, nor against what you’re against. But they’re for what you’re for. A lot of people will mistake a constituent for someone who’s going to be around forever. This is because many times you’ll have similar interests. Think of two friends who bond over being “single”. What usually happens after one of them finds a partner? They disappear and that relationship is never the same again, unless of course both people become single. Constituents are like scaffolding to a building, they’re there for the purpose of construction. But don’t worry, even when you remove the scaffolding the building still stands.

#3 Confidants

Confidants are not for what you are for, nor against what you’re against. They are FOR YOU. These people are as rare as they come. It won’t matter what you did or what you said. They will always have you back. You’ll likely have less than a handful of these people enter you life. Cherish them when they do. Mine is my closest immediate family.

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